Bitches…bitches everywhere

Hi huns! 

I thought I’d talk a bit about my 7 years of same sex education and the harsh reality on how it can affect relationships with men going forward! This is completely my personal experience and I would love to hear from anyone that found it has had a different impact on them xox

So don’t get me wrong, I am so grateful for the education I had – ~hate to brag~ but I went to one of the best schools in the country and although I complain about it now I really don’t think I’d be where I was if I hadn’t! However I don’t mind admitting I found being all girls for 7 years really really tough.

Whenever I told someone I was in same sex education I always got the same question, “is it bitchy?” – and the reality is that’s it’s much much worse than just bitchy. A whole load of fake friends and a whole load of backstabbing, and I don’t think I’m alone in saying I was close to dropping out several times.

My school in particular – sorry CCHS love u hun – was really bad at mixing us girls with the boys grammar we were partnered to. We didn’t mix at sixth form and we didn’t put on shows together and we didn’t have “discos” together past year 8 (personal highlight), and boys became a bit of an alien species. The only time you’d be able to mix was it you got accepted onto the DofE scheme and I didn’t, smh fix!!!!!! Was green with envy hearing about all the romantic tent snogs.

Honestly me and my best friend would go into a bit of a meltdown if there were boys at the bus stop and I LONGED to stand at the “cooler” bus stop on the opposite side of the road to ~flirt with all the boys~ but when you’re losers like we were (sorry April), the social hierarchy kept us longing. 

And as time went on, the idea of “boys” just become more and more mystical, you always HAD to look your best if there was one around and walking past the gates of the boys school was a military operation to be timed to absolute perfection for ~maximum impact~.

I think for me particularly, living with my mum and my sister, and my only hobby (dance) being extremely female orientated, I never grasped the concept of being friends with boys – the idea genuinely alarmed me.

It’s something that has definitely impacted me growing up, as sometimes I don’t have the emotional maturity when I’m dating to realise me and this guy might just be better off being friends, which could have saved me a LOT of trouble, believe me.

It has also meant, and I have to swallow a lot of pride to say this, that I do enjoy male attention, even if it’s just a conversation with a colleague or a chat with a bartender, because it’s not something I was ever used to experiencing and conversing with men is so different to what I was used to for so many years.

*swallows pride*

I’m not entirely sure what the point of this is, as it’s not to discourage same sex education but I just want to highlight the effects it can have and that if you or your child or your relative or your friend is in same sex education, make the effort to try and mingle them with the opposite sex otherwise they’ll end up weird AF like me!!!! (See below)

Thanks for coming to my ted talk.

Cya xoxox

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